Off i go far far away

My Story and thoughs on Online and Long distance Relationships.

Ive got the hang of this posting stuff now :). I don't know how regular it will be although i think it will be a lot less regular (like all my Internet related activity's). I'm off to Denmark in October to visit my Girl friend of a few years now :). We meet though the chat site Lycos the UK version. It has been great ever since, testimony to how online relationships can work so well :). For anyone who has considered it and is unsure what they are doing. I think you should give it a shot after all if it doesn't work you can always walk away. It may not seem quite right but don't be afraid of change it will be the social norm soon if it isn't already. That's the same with most things when they appear on the scene every ones like OMG that's not right, but after a while they become more tolerant and given a few years its totally normal :P. I remember when me and my Girl friend first started going out people expressed there concerns. My parents where cool with it they are both quite open minded, and her parents didn't mind either but i know there was opposition and people who just felt it wasn't right and stuff. General rule here is give it time people will come to accept it once their fears have been settled. Its natural to be afraid of things we dont understand.

After 3 years now though they have all shut up :P. We met for the first time last year when i traveled to Denmark (where shes from). This febuary she came over to visit me. We had a great time both of the times and it works well with my wish to see the world to :P. I also went to the UK to vist family (I was born there) and malaysia where my mothers sister lives. Its been great its given me an excuse and a motivation to get out there and see the world Ive wanted to for a long time but its taken a lot of work and pushing my self. This just made it easier :).

For anyone thinking about trying an online or long distance relationship you have it from me give it a go its worked great :). Ive heard plenty of other people who have good storeys to tell including a few people i have suggest try it. Anyone needs advice or help feel free to contact me I'm happy to help :)

A few tips .

• You need to make time for each other, Each day if you can.
• Buy a web cam if you haven't got one and a mic or cheap long distance calls.
• Don't let this Internet stranger danger worry you to much. Your probably at more danger from that weirdo down the road than some guy on the other side of the world. Sadistically I'm sure you are :P
  
• Have plans and the means to go met them if you decide to. Even if it may take you a few years as long as one of you can move that's fine.
• Make sure you help to establish trust don't cheat on them or break any of the normal rules.
• if theirs a problem talk about it don't just let it be and hope it goes away.
• General follow the rules of real life relationships just adapt them to the distance.
• Dont worry if you haven't been in a relationship before this was my 3rd and the first i actually met the person.

Once you have over come all the other obsticals you can walk into that immigration laws wall. If your lucky your both from the same country or more open countrys. Our problems have been made worse lately with Denmarks extream right wing goverments new immigration laws. Although we have ways around that. We can just live in Sweden together or Australia or UK. Im sure you can also find ways around this or its time to get political and fight for change. In our case things are looking up the EU has ruled that Denmarks laws break EU law :P Just gota hope they can force denmark to change them.

If it makes you happy do it :) Society will catch up one day :) Love should and does know no boundary's and the worlds not that large really ;)